The internet and the world at large are filled with aspirational stories about “supermoms.” The incredible women who can juggle having multiple kids with a high powered career as well as doing numerous charity events and can do all of that while staying toned, thin, and beautiful. Of course, it’s hardly surprising that for a lot of mom’s, even reading about these kinds of people can be enough to make you feel somewhat lacking in the maternity department. How are you supposed to compete with that? Well, you don’t have to. In fact, the best thing that you can do is to ask for help and support when you need it. Here are a few occasions where there is no shame in asking for help.
Despite the fact that people are becoming much more willing to discuss mental health these days, there’s still a lot of stigmas attached, and there’s nowhere where that stigma is more pronounced than around pregnancy and parenthood. It’s effortless to feel if you’re struggling with your mental health after having a baby, that there’s something wrong with you or that you’re a failure. This is not true. The best thing that you can do is to reach out for help. You can look online for plenty of mental health resources including help for perinatal mental disorders. Or, if you’re not sure what help you need, you can just talk to a friend or family member instead.
Having kids is expensive. That’s something that every new parent needs to learn as quickly as possible. Thanks to the rising cost of living combined with the fact that wages aren’t increasing to meet those costs, the price of raising children is getting closer and closer to being something that many people simply can’t handle on their own. Because of that, it’s entirely reasonable to need to reach out for financial support in some way. This can either be through your friends and family or governmental assistance. As with mental health, there’s a lot of stigma around that sort of thing, but it’s important to remember that these things exist to help people who need them. Whether you need them to get by or you’re using them as a temporary measure while you’re looking for extra work, there is no shame in needing a little bit of financial assistance now and then.
The expectation on many moms to be perfect often enough to leave you feeling pretty worthless. But here’s the dirty little secret, it’s a myth. Sure, some people can handle all of those things together but don’t ever let anyone try and convince you that they are always as happy, relaxed, and independent as they would have you think. The reality is this: even supermoms need help from time to time. Asking for help when you need it is one of the best and strongest things that you can do as a mother.