It’s Sometimes About You

As a mom, you are told all the time about putting the children first. Everything you do, from serving your plate for dinner to getting ready in the morning, comes last. There’s a reason that Momma Bear’s porridge was cold, and it wasn’t to do with preference! Mothers everywhere put their children before them, and that’s exactly as it should be. These are our kids, made with our flesh and blood. We birthed them, we fed them, and we do everything we can to raise them to be at least polite human beings.

The thing is, sometimes – just sometimes – mom has to come first. Look around your house. It’s full of kids and laughter and messes. Kids come with a lot of messes, and as mothers, we clean up as fast and as futilely as we can while the kid’s race around the room to room. Open your wardrobe. When was the last time you took yourself shopping for clothes and came home with something for yourself? You probably went shopping with a few hundred dollars and bought yourself a new mop while you updated the summer wardrobes for the children. Open the medicine cabinet in the bathroom. When was the last time you treated yourself to a pamper box of face masks, nail polish, and exfoliators? You probably went to go and get yourself something for a hot bubble bath, but instead found a brand-new cleaner for the bathroom and who needs a bath when the kids are going to interrupt you, anyway?

Mom, it’s time to take care of yourself. Yes, you will always naturally put your children first, but it’s time for you to be a little selfish and take a step into the spotlight. You’ve probably been meaning to fix up your diet so that you’re surviving on more than just the leftovers on the dinner plates your children polished off earlier. You probably intended to get out of those yoga pants three years ago – seeing as that’s when the last baby was born. Finding time to work out among the sleepless nights, the school run and the latest play date can be hard, though! Checking out workouts that can be done from home, like the ones you can read about on is always the first step for a mom on a mission to put herself to the forefront of the family. A mom who doesn’t take care of even the most basic needs is a mom who isn’t putting herself first.

Have that long, luxurious bubble bath and lock the door so Dad can take care of the kids. Have a hot meal by setting the table first and sitting down the moment your plate is served. Get up earlier than the kids to fit in that workout that you’ve been craving for a while. Organizing your life around the children is going to happen, it’s an inevitability with parenting. This doesn’t mean you have to put yourself second. You are as equally as important as the children you would give your last breath to. As a mother, they wouldn’t be here without you. Teach them to clear up after themselves. Teach them to have respect for the home and all of you can clean it together, equally, so that you all get time to do the things you want to do most. Don’t survive on scraps if you don’t want to and don’t allow yourself to feel frumpy in those three-year-old yoga pants! Take yourself shopping and dispense with the guilt. As a mother, you deserve to look fantastic in the skinny jeans, and you deserve that boost of confidence that makes you feel worth something.

Most mothers talk about the guilt that comes with buying themselves an item of clothing or that tall, iced coffee that they love so much. Why? Don’t you deserve to treat yourself? Don’t you deserve to have the coffee after the last three nights that you saw 3 am? You definitely, absolutely deserve the coffee. You deserve the jeans, and you deserve to smile because you did something that was for yourself. You will always be a mother. You will always be tearing your hair out because the children didn’t pick up their laundry and put it in the basket in the laundry room. You will always ensure they eat something before you do. But that doesn’t mean you aren’t still a woman. You were, and always will be, somebody more than ‘Mom’ Start acting like it.

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