Being Happy For The Little One

Becoming a mother changes the very wiring of your brain, and it turns you into an individual with a one-track mind. Your baby is the only person who matters, and that line of thought is entirely understandable, but, in order to best achieve the goal of keeping your newborn child healthy, happy and growing as he or she should be, you need to step out of your intuitive mindset and look at the situation rationally. If you’re not looking after yourself, then you can’t be looking after your baby to the best of your ability. You’ll be functioning far below your normal level, which means you’ll be restless, sloppy and inattentive.

Your baby needs undivided love and attention, but the mother in this equation needs to be of the right mindset and health to provide that undivided love and attention. It’s a tough scale to keep balanced, but the key lies in looking at the situation from an outsider’s perspective as well as your inescapable perspective based on motherly intuition. If you need a little help when it comes to remaining lively and on top form for your little one, here are some great pieces of advice to help keep mother and child healthy.

Physical health
This is the one thing that parents often let slip when they have a child. You’re far too busy and far too drained to focus on the very core elements of your daily routine. From the outside, it may appear to friends and family that you’ve simply stopped going out or enjoying a relaxing glass of wine in the evenings, but often even the necessary aspects of your daily life go out of the window when your little one enters the world.

Of course, when I mention physical health, I’m speaking in terms of the very basic requirements for human survival; eating, sleeping and staying active. These are all incredibly important, and you likely already know that, but it’s all too easy to become overwhelmed and simply forget that you haven’t eaten your lunch or that you’ve only had 2 hours of sleep every night this week. Treat yourself with the same love and care as you treat your child. That’s a good rule of thumb.

Mental Health
The mind is the main thing which suffers for a new mother. The lack of sleep or simply a failure to eat properly, as discussed above, has a huge effect on the mind, as we rely on our bodies to operate at maximum efficiency. Of course, postnatal depression and other strains of mental illness, even at a minor level, can strike a lot of mothers. You can talk with friends and family, but mental troubles often concern self-perception.

Confidence issues might require time to work through, though companies such as Bel Red Center can help flatten stretch marks on the abdomen if your postnatal appearance is having a deeply-rooted effect on your mind. Mental instability to some extent is common for many mothers, but trying to persevere through a depressed state of self-reflection won’t just damage your self-esteem; your baby feeds on your mental state, and a negative mother is no good. It’s just as important for a mother to be happy in her mind as it is for her child to be happy.

A Strong Support Network
As touched upon above, simply talking to your loved ones is important. You might not think they’ll understand or be able to help, but sometimes you don’t need them to understand; sometimes you need a friend to offer their free babysitting services whilst you and your partner, or perhaps a friend, enjoy some free time watching that film you thought you didn’t have time to see at the cinema.

9 thoughts on “Being Happy For The Little One

  1. So true! A strong support network is so important and vital. I know that it meant the world to me to hear others agree with what I was saying and to know I wasn’t alone. really important we look after ourselves otherwise we can’t look after others!

  2. I completely agree–parents have to take care of themselves for the sake of their child. How can a baby be well taken care of by parents who are on the verge of collapse? Hopefully we will be able to create communities around the world where all parents are well taken care of.

  3. These are wonderful tips! I’m a new mom to a 10 month old and I am in the process of trying to figure out the balance of caring for myself and my baby girl. It is so true that when I neglect myself, everything suffers. Especially my mental health. Thank you for sharing your heart!

    1. Thank you so much for your comments. Congratulations on the sweet new little baby. It’s hard to remember that we need to be taken care of or else we can be useless to our family if we are not well.

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