Has your relationship hit a dry spell? Like you, I understand the feeling of lost fireworks but feeling a love that is so deep in your heart. Fading passion is one of the hardest and complicated aspects of any relationship. In the beginning, you can’t keep your hands off of one another. Then you get older, busier and you might even toss in a couple of children into the mix. The next thing you know, you’re not having sex at all.
Sex is a magical thing. It’s unique, it’s fun, and it feels good, but it’s also tied to emotion, self-esteem, health and other personal factors. You might feel that sex is one tiny aspect of your love life, but the reality is that it can lead to tension in your relationship.
Unless both partners have a low sex drive, the lack of sexual intimacy can harm your relationship. It can be easy to fall into a routine when it comes to sex. It’s hard to want to have it when you feel emotionally drained, but it’s increasingly more challenging to feel bonded with your partner without that physical intimacy.
Don’t panic; there is a way that you can bring fire back to your life and bedroom.
Feel Good About Yourself
When you don’t feel good about yourself, it’s tremendously hard to feel sexy for your partner. If your self-esteem is low, it’s time to make some changes to your way of thinking because your partner already sees your real beauty. Join a fitness class to help boost your confidence. Actively work on improving how you look at yourself and how you feel. Building your self-esteem and taking care of yourself physically and mentally are all key factors to follow if you want to feel good about yourself. Did you know that a lack of self-confidence can impact your relationship and your life tremendously? You are beautiful, remind yourself every day and watch your confidence grow a little each day.
Communicate With Your Partner
First, you should realize that this may take more than one conversation. Talking about your deepest feelings about your sex life can be difficult, but is so crucial to a happy sex life. This discussion is necessary for all couples. It doesn’t matter if you are newlyweds or long-married couples. Talk about your expectations, your fears, your desires and your concerns. Be honest with your partner and with yourself.
Make Time For Sex
I know, it doesn’t sound glamorous at all. But, make time for sex. Sex is such an essential factor in a happy relationship. Too often, we get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life, and slowly sex trickles to the bottom of the list. With a few little tricks, we can get it back to the top spot on that list.
1. Make a Date: Find a night that works for the both of you, circle it on the calendar.
2. Build Anticipation: This is when foreplay comes in to play. For a woman, foreplay begins well before you hit the bedroom at night. So cuddle on the couch together, hold hands or hug more often, send one another sweet little texts.
3.Enjoy The Moment: Relax your mind and forget about your to-do list until tomorrow. Sex is not a chore. It’s a time to show your spouse how much you love them.
4. Repeat, Repeat and Repeat.
With some effort, communication and time, your love life will be flourishing back into a healthy, happy and lasting relationship.