Parenting My Way

Parenting is hard. You are never 100% ready to be a parent. Being a mom has been challenging.  I’ll never say it was easy – because it wasn’t.

There is no instruction manual that comes with being a parent.  I cried – a lot. I freaked out. I laughed, I smiled and most importantly I adjusted.

I’m not a perfect parent, far from it to be honest. I’m just trying to survive this whole parenting thing one day at a time. Let’s be serious for a minute, I’m just one cuss word away from being one total hot mess on the crazy train.

It took me a really long time to realize that parenting comes with mistakes and that there is no requirement for every little aspect in life to be picture-perfect. The fact is, picture-perfect only exists in the movies. If I’m going to survive this parenting thing – I am going to do it my way.

There are so many different types of parents in today’s world and each with their own rewards and challenges.  I admit it, when it comes to parenting I’m lazy. Lazy doesn’t mean bad. I am not being uncaring or negligent to my children.  The  kids are clean, fed, clothed and for the most part – happy!  If you are looking to curve the parenting guidelines or just want more time to browse Facebook, follow my parenting made easy-guide.

Don’t Cater To Them

I’m not some fancy chef hired to cater meals to the taste buds of my children. I can’t please both heathens at the same time. This kitchen does not have a revolving door. There are only two options – eat or starve!!

I’m kidding, I’m not actually going to let them starve, I’m sure there are crackers somewhere in the pantry. While, I’m not prepared to make additional food on request, they can fend for themselves eating left overs or anything else they can actually find that is not expired or gross in the fridge. They eat a lot of cereal and PB sandwiches.

 Ignore Them

Unless someone is crying or bleeding, ignore them. I hear ‘mom’ about 2,345, 765 times a day – I kid you not. They often call me for the most ridiculous weirdest things. My kids will walk right past their father to track me down in the bath tub to tell me that they are bored crazy or that the dog farted. I mean seriously, call me when one of you have fallen down the stairs. I’ll make some popcorn and you can entertain me for once.

Trial and Error

If you’re children are anything like mine, they know EVERYTHING.  Don’t chase after them when they ‘forget’ something. Experience is the best teaching tool. My daughter once refused to wear a winter hat on her head and snow boots. I didn’t chase after her or nag her, instead I left Mother Nature do what she does best – and froze her out. It took just  a day or two for the Snow Princess to plop on that winter hat and those snow boots on her travels.

Creative Reasoning

It’s the easiest way to get my children to do what I need them to do without sulking. One night my son refused to shower after his hockey practice.  He had planned to play the video game in his room.  I needed him to take a shower. He smelled – badly. I suggested that if he wanted to play the video game tonight that he should shower or the video game was off-limits. Truth is, the video game is in his room and he has unlimited access – trick was on him that night. Okay, this could also be classified under manipulation and/or bribery.

Television Approved

If you ever want some silence in your household, turn the television on and let your child sit and enjoy the current episode of Paw Patrol, or whatever new trending show is currently annoying parents these days. There is no such thing as too much TV and despite what you may have heard the television will not rot their brains. The television has been an efficient tool for generations.  You’d be amazed at how much cleaning can get done with an hour of pure silence.

Do you have any easy resources to help make parenting a little easier as we all just try to pull it together long enough to make it through one more day?

36 thoughts on “Parenting My Way

  1. I am so so so not perfect. Although, we have fun and we do our best to live simple…not catering to any one persons needs. I hope one day they will get it and appreciate it..:or maybe not? Oh well! 😉

  2. This was a great read. It really is all trial and error. I’m not sure anyone is ever completely prepared to be a parent. There’s always that “scared” factor. But you figure it out! Everyone parents differently, I agree 100%.

  3. I am also a parent in the making with a toddler. As she is growing, I am learning more and more about parenting. And I agree with your parenting tips.

  4. This post is right on! You made me literally LOL about your kids walking past dad to hunt me down it’s so true !!! Why?!?! 😱 Lol parenting it’s so interesting

  5. This is beautiful post! You giving us great tips! I don’t have any children yet but ok remember it for when I have my own 🙂

  6. It’s so refreshing to hear you say these things! I subscribe to all of them (except the eating one – I’m terrible about making kids whatever food they request). There are so many different kinds of parents, and so many different kinds of kids. Differences in family philosophy will not ruin children!

  7. Hehe this is an interesting post! I don’t know much about parenting but it seems like you have everything under control and it’s good that you are sharing it so maybe others can see that they are not alone in this x

  8. Any parent who hasn’t made a mistake is simply lying (unless their baby is like a day old or something). You seem like you’re doing a great job, well done 🙂

  9. I totally agree with so much of these and I actually think it’s important for kids to see us make mistakes as well! I grew up thinking when I became an adult I would just know stuff and be good at it all and truth is you are still learning the whole way through life! I agree sometimes you have to be a bit tougher in order for them to learn. Great tips!

  10. I love your parenting style. I am a chef, but catering to his every whim and whimsy doesn’t help him or me. So he eats what we eat (at least that’s what I say, in all reality there are days he eats a peanut butter sandwich.)
    I also agree with the television thing. In fact screen time has been upped by the APA, so no one should feel guilty for doing what is best for them and their family.
    Being a parent is hard, everyone has to do it how they feel they need to!
    Good post mama!

  11. Parenting is the most fun job to learn on the job and also the most rewarding without any monetary benefits. I don’t agree wit letting them watch as much telly after all I grew up without one and foud much more productive and natural, adrenaline pumping activities to keep me focused while my mom got on with the job of learning to be a mom and bring me up!

  12. What a great post!! I am not a parent but this post is so useful!! Some things I’ll keep in mind for when I have children! 🙂 Thanks for sharing with us

  13. Such great suggestions Crystal! Haha. I have a 5 month old son so we’re not really at this stage yet, so I laugh but only out of realising that this will be our life in the future. You are an AMAZING mum – I struggle with this non-existent idea of ‘perfection’ too. It sounds like your kids are happy and healthy, which makes you a perfect mum to them 🙂

  14. I used to feel so guilty putting my daughter in front of the TV, Then my son came along, and suddenly, there were TWO! And the guilt fled from me faster than I could realised. I used to cook 20 million meals 20 million ways just to make sure my daughter was fed to my satisfaction, Now – its eat whats in front of you or have porridge! I love this post because Ii can relate to every sentence! Unless you have some genetically engineered children that are programmed to be well behaved 24/7, Parenting is a roller coaster and its about doing whats best for you and your family. Thanks for sharing.

  15. I love your honestly lol! Your right though I don’t think you can ever really be prepared to be a parent and when they hit that toddler stage and start dropping naps it hits you right where it hurts lol!! We all parent the way it suits us, all kids are different and so therefore 1 parenting style wouldn’t suit all kids either. Great post xx

  16. Ha! I laughed about the urgent news of the dog farting. I so appreciate that you’re owning your own style of parenting. I think we all need to find what works for us, because if we try to be something we’re not, we are just going to suffer!

  17. Trial and Error and Creative Reasoning baby–I am already using them with my 18 month old! Whaaa?!?! But we survive and most the time we have fun and peace in our home–except during universal meltdown hour (which is about an hour before dinner!!)

  18. Trial and error! So much trial and error with our first daughter, we think we have it *a little* bit more figured out with our second 😉

    1. I think you let more things slide the second time around.. at least for me. I was more relaxed with some things.

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