Having a baby with an ADD/ADHD can be quite a struggle. This kind of disorder is not only hard for the child who suffers but for the parents as well. Although this is the case of every family who experiences this kind of set-up, home is where love and compassion must and should take place.
Accepting your child as he or she is one step towards that act of support. Your child may have capabilities that are strange to other people but remember that these are only parts of the whole. Here are some useful pieces of advice which may help you in dealing with your child:
ADHD does not define who your kid is
It is essential to bear in mind that seeing and treating your kid as that person who has the disorder will always be unfair to you or even to your own child. This is not to say that you hide the truth from everybody else or even to your own child but rather this is you looking at your child as the person who still can do things even with his or her disposition.
You must let your child understand that while he may have that impulse different from other kids his or her age; he can still be the same as every child. Do not limit him to what he can do and do not expect he can do what you want him to do. Balance things out.
This may sound cliché but this rings true especially in this scenario. This is not to say that you are not allowed to feel tired at the end of the day but this is to help you enlighten that every child is special.
Do not for a second think that he or she is a burden to you. In a world where everybody might not understand what your child is going through, it is important for you to note that your love secures them through. Be happy for every little improvement. Celebrate the mundane and the ordinary.
You might not totally eradicate your child’s disorder but at least somehow you have helped minimized his discomfort to the world. Your child’s attitude is sometimes reflective of your attitude as well.
Establish deep connection
This means that you as a parent must keep your attention on your child as long as he needs it. Do not think that your doctor can do it. Do not think that the medications alone can do it. You can and you will establish a deep connection between yourself and your child primarily because there is not one who could stabilize his or her emotions and secure his or her in such a way that he would not feel scared about the world. Do small talks with your child. Ask them anything you want. Fight, even, if necessary. Take your child to parks and museums; take him or her to the candy store.
Enjoy every moment
Since you are not limiting to the capacity of what your child can do, engage him or her to play and have fun. According to researchers, an ADHD child’s imagination starts to light up when he or she is involved in various activities.
There are several games which you could start off with your child. As a parent, it is your responsibility to be creative so he or she will not lose his focus towards the activities. Studies show that when children engage in games and spontaneous activities (example scooters, skateboards, skates, sports outdoors, …) they tend to learn more about the world they live in and discover his or her wants and needs at the end of the day.
The more he or she explores everything that is going on about his or her surrounding, the more he or she wants to do it and that kind of mindset allows your child to be happy and productive.
Praise him for what he has done
A simple, “Good job!” Or, “Awesome!” is more than enough for your child. Whenever he has accomplished something always give him the proper credit for it. Give him a gentle pat on the back or a tight hug. This kind of compliment helps in contributing to your child’s self-esteem and confidence. It could also help your child be motivated to continue what he is doing because he is conditioned to do it for a sweet exchange and reward.
These are just simple reminders for you to be reminded of in dealing your child’s disorder. As parents, I know you will be able to do and apply these things with an enthusiastic heart. Nothing is greater than the love of the parent to his baby. Nothing is more comforting than you always being there for his side no matter what.
Author bio: Emma is the founder of ShrewdMommy, where she and associates blog about pregnancy advice, parenting insights, tips for mommy